About

Psychotherapy & Couples Coaching

I’ve been a psychotherapist for over 35 years.   If you don’t find improvement by end of your third session with me, then I’m not the right therapist match for you, and we’ll talk about referral options.  I use practical, direct, and effective methods

From my working in anger management men’s groups I learned about the full range of reasons partners get hurt and angry with each other. I started my couples communication skills simulation training program called ‘Handling Conflict With Confidence’ in 1998.  Now 40% of my private practice is working with couples.  

I use a primarily educational approach, informed by clinical intuition,  in helping couples handle conflict.   My approach works for over half the couples I see.  

I can do sessions at your home for extra confidentiality and privacy. There is no need for clinical notes, for those concerned about potential legal issues, if you are being coached. 

Marc Sadoff

“I have put in my 10,000 hours of the experience of helping couples find a better connection by eliminating the unnecessary conflict.”

Marc Sadoff

Zoom Relationship Coaching

Private Individual & 3-Way Video Calls To Help Couples Handle Conflict With Confidence. Relationship.


Clients outside of California are worked with as coaching clients.

EMDR- Eye Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing Treatment

Private Couples Therapy Sessions In Los Angeles - I do home visits, as well as office sessions. EMDR is the treatment of choice for PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder).

Contact Marc to Arrange for Free 15 Minute Consultation

Email me to speak with me about how I work with couples to see if you think I can be helpful. Please include your phone number and some good windows of days and times that I could call you.

Confidential Effective Psychotherapy For Depression, Panic and Anxiety Disorders

I’ve been a psychotherapist treating depression, panic & anxiety, couples conflict & anger management for over 35 years.

  • Licensed in California in 1985 as a psychotherapist and clinical social worker.  License #11725
  • Board Certified Diplomate in Clinical Social Work by American Board of Examiners in 1994, #14,967
  • Trained in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Somatic Therapy, EMDR, Alcoholism & Addictions, Family & Couples Therapy, PREP for Couples.
  • Solution focused and brief therapy with results and goals set by you the client.

I have 30 years of EMDR Eye Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing experience. People often ask what the BCD stands for in my title. That stands for Board Certified Diplomate which is the highest level of confidence in knowing that a clinical social worker is experienced and qualified to do clinical psychotherapy. 

I was trained in 1991 by Francine Shapiro Ph.D. in using EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing) for the treatment of PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder) stress symptoms such as insomnia, bad dreams, intrusive unwanted thoughts, hyper-vigilance, thinking all the time about your life, traumatic images, nightmares, sleep & intimacy problems and being irritable.   This therapy helps eliminate bad thoughts, images, feelings or behaviors.

Absolutely confidential therapy and treatment for any types of bad thoughts, fantasies or imagery.   If you want to stop being so affected by those images, nightmares or intrusive bad memories, EMDR is a brief and effective treatment for a broad range of symptoms of anxiety and depression. It’s been researched very thoroughly and been found to be very effective at reducing symptoms and subjective feelings of unease.

You can read more about EMDR at their website

Individual Therapy

Reserve your seats in the next ‘Power & Compassion Communication’

Weekend Los Angeles Seminar for couples.

The Seminar costs about as much as three sessions with a marriage therapist.

The only difference is that you might be done spending money on therapy if the workshop turns out to be enough to set your relationship on a good course again!

  • It’s Affordable
  • It’s Convenient
  • And, It’s Really FUN!

I just can’t stop thinking about what’s happened in my life!

Examples: Memories from Viet Nam or other wars, rape victim, sexual molestation or incest, pet or animal abuse, bad memories from school or childhood, victim of childhood teasing, shame as a result of your behavior, excessive thoughts or feelings about abandonment, spiritual estrangement, can’t get over lost love relationship or just plain feeling bad when you think of certain memories. 

EMDR often works when other treatments fail to desensitize the bad feelings, thoughts and images.

Stop feeling so bad when you can’t stop thinking about: Violent acts… as victim or perpetrator… sexual incidents… humiliating experiences… near death accidents… physical trauma & violence, losses, grief, experiences you regret or are ashamed of.

EMDR can help reduce these unwanted, intrusive and disturbing thoughts, feelings and images. It’s called desensitization, and as a principle of treatment for anxiety disorders desensitization has been found to be a very successful technique for nightmares, intrusive thoughts & images from humiliating, sexual or violent past experiences.

Memories can be desensitized so they no longer make you feel bad, scared or ashamed. Childhood physical or sexual abuse often leaves a person with some form of post-traumatic stress disorder. This may come in the form having the following:

  • Recurring unwanted, intrusive thoughts, feelings & images that you can’t stop thinking about.
  • Irritability, anger sensitivity around people.
  • Feeling a sense of being different.  No one has experiences like you have had.  Because they haven’t.
  • Instability in relationships.
  • Insomnia or restless sleep & nightmares, flashbacks.
  • Exaggerated startle response to loud noises.
  • Cannot find pleasure in doing activities that used to bring you pleasure or joy (anhedonia).
  • Avoiding things or people that trigger memories, thoughts or feelings that remind you of the bad experience

Couple's Therapy

Private Couple's Coaching & Marriage Counseling

Some couples prefer the privacy of meeting privately with me, without other couples present, such as at a workshop. In private sessions at my West Los Angeles office I am more free to do a more thorough assessment of both parties. For instance, talking about addictions or childhood abuse issues cannot be done at the seminar, but can be explored in private couples sessions. 

While it can be useful to explore each partner’s history more thoroughly, it can also take up time that might better be used for learning the agreements and the skills. If you do not suspect that addictions, depression or PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder) is a part of your problems as a couple, then I would recommend signing up for the couples workshop.

Since I believe that many problems occurring within relationships are a result of not knowing other ways of expressing or listening to each other; then my manner of therapy can be didactic and educational at times. This means that I will talk more than most other traditional therapists. I encourage my clients and couples to let me know if they feel we are not on the right track. I want you to tell me if you think we are going down an unproductive street or subject. I can also shut up and listen to the patient, or the couple, when the problem is not so simple as those requiring the agreements, skills and methods of the Course.

A final comment about my style of therapy – I do not sit calmly, nodding my head saying “Uh-huh, tell me more… Sorry, time’s up.” Especially with couples! I will be directive. You will know who I am. You will know what I think. If I think that a man or woman is acting with contempt, aggression or hostility while speaking in a session, I make it clear that hostility is unacceptable.

That hostility will probably become the focus in that session. Contempt, aggression, blame and hostility stops communication and it is poison to repairing the relationship. I’ve developed methods and techniques for moving through conflict like this in a compassionate yet firm style.

SPECIAL OFFER

Private Couple's Coaching

Cost – $450

Two hours of private sessions in my West Los Angeles office, or via Zoom Video.  

It’s a section of my ‘Real Hope for Couples’ workshop.

To schedule your Two Hours of private sessions with Marc please call at 310 444-1951.

A Testimonial from someone who read the seminar manual-

THANK YOU AGAIN SOOO MUCH FOR TEACHING ME IN A FEW DAYS WHAT MY PARENTS HAVE NOT IN 37 YEARS! Getting my relationship with the “outside” world (but mainly my marriage), on track is the GREATEST GIFT one could ever give me. Last week I read your manual and this morning I am for the first time in my life saying sorry to my husband for being late without trying to come up with thousands of stupid excuses why it had happened. I simply admitted that I should have done better job planning my other activities and promised to do a better job in the future.

– Gabi

Read other emails or watch video testimonials HERE.