We enjoyed your couples workshop this past weekend. We believe we learned quite a bit and have been implementing it into our daily routine. I find it so far to be very effective. We used to bicker about small things everyday before the class, and now since we’ve been following the steps and giving the other the “remote control”, we take care of the bicker in less than 5 minutes (as before it would be hours). We will continue to practice the skills we’ve learned because we truly believe it helps our relationship grow stronger. Please send us the DVD so we can practice more. Thank you for everything!
Dear Mr. Sadoff,
I am writing to thank you for the help that your manual “Coming Together for Life” has been to me. Many of the techniques outlined in your manual can be put to immediate use and bring about immediate change. I thank you for this wonderful resource.
As I have read through the manual, I have a feeling that I have a controlling personality. I also suspect that I am somewhat codependent. I am wondering if you could recommend some good resources that I could use to understand these topics better and how to overcome them. I am also interested in any resources you could direct me to in helping me to understand how my childhood could effect my present personality and relationships.
Thank you so much.
I came to your seminar last year. It was so amazingly helpful and eye opening, that I highly recommend your workshop. We left your workshop and had the best marriage ever for about a month. We fell a bit, headed into some major issues, and using the things we learned in your seminar, we popped out the end of a tunnel of turbulence – that we’d been in since before we got married (since late 2003) – by early this year. We are in a whole different relationship now. Thank you, thank you so much for that! Such a good place, I took his name (that’s why my e-mail now says J____.)
Anyways… not the point! I just signed up my brother and his wife for your July workshop. I’ve been working on them for awhile and finally got forceful – Good? Bad? I’m sure you know! 😉 His name is Rick and her name is C___. Looking forward to more miracle working! 😉 She’s a good one and I’d like to keep her in the family! She’s also got a son (stepson to my bro) which makes splitting that much harder. They’re married about 3 years now.
When I reached for help on the Internet last week I was desperate. I was hoping to find some sort of a manual that would help me step by step to understand what I was doing wrong and what “nice” and “liked” people would do in certain situations. Your Workbook is exactly what I was looking for and I am so grateful to you for putting it together. While reading it I often felt like you must have been in our house when my husband and I were arguing. The statements like: You just won’t listen ! or Can you just stop interrupting me ! or Can you just listen for once without saying anything? I have heard so many times. But this is all OVER! Thanks to YOU!! You have opened my eyes and initiated a HUGE change in my life. Perhaps now I will show more respect to others by being a better listener and by being a better communicator. THANK YOU AGAIN SOOO MUCH FOR TEACHING ME IN A FEW DAYS WHAT MY PARENTS HAVE NOT IN 37 YEARS!
Getting my relationship with the “outside” world ( but mainly my marriage), on track is the GREATEST GIFT one could ever give me. Last week I read your manual and this morning I am for the first time in my life saying sorry to my husband for being late without trying to come up with thousands of stupid excuses why it had happened. I simply admitted that I should have done a better job planning my other activities and promised to do a better job in the future.
I just wanted to let you know that we got the Manuals that Friday afternoon as promised and they have been a tremendous help already!! My boyfriend is totally committed to taking this course material seriously, which is a pleasant surprise since that was my main concern with him. I frequently thank him for his commitment and ability to use these skills during our arguments. We would be history by now if it weren’t for the communication skills we are learning in your manual!
I’ve told my girlfriend about the almost instant positive impact of this manual on my relationship, and now she has a friend who wants to know more about the manuals so I’m sending her the URL.
We came to your seminar with many difficulties and near violent anger. Definitely emotionally violent. After taking your course we learned and practice many of the techniques and principles you taught in the seminar we attended last year. It not only saved our relationship but has improved our individual lives.
For months and months we had all your rules taped to our walls (with 3M temporary double sided removable pad tabs) in the bathroom above the sinks, on the fridge and in my office and in the utility room. They kept reminding us of the proper ways to handle conflict and it has curtailed the damaging effects of emotional escalation that really ruined any chance to a loving peaceful life. Although we both are far from where we’d like to be, we are thousands of miles ahead of the painful place we were before attending your course.
Spending the time with you and other couples helped us see that we were not alone and encouraged us to move through this awful phase of our relationship to a happier more satisfying relationship. We were both motivated to learn and sincere when we came. We participated genuinely and we received great rewards then and now. I believe that we have integrated your techniques into our lives to our benefit.
Thank God for your life’s work and course that has helped us grow and create a relationship that is so much more satisfying and pleasant. We appreciate your part in our lives. We were married September 27th 2002!
Bill & Lori
(This was an email forwarded to us that was a seminar attendee writing to her friend.)
Great to hear back from you. Here’s the website for the marriage enrichment workshop that Bob and I took. It’s www.RealHope.com . If J___ isn’t willing to give up one day of his life to enhance your marriage, I would have grave concern about whether this would help you…or even if it sounds like he wants your marriage to work.
As the old saying goes, “it takes 2 to tango.” I’m not even sure that the therapist would accept you into the workshop, without your husband…since there will be contracts you need to make with one another during the day. I highly recommend the workshop, however, and hope you will be able to benefit from it, as Bob and I are.
Best of luck to you, J__ and the baby. Keep me posted on how things are going. By the way, the therapist who runs the program, Marc Sadoff, would be happy to address your questions, I’m sure. You’ll find his phone and email address on the website. Take care!
I wonder if you realize what you have done by putting together your Workbook. You have totally changed my personality and life basically “overnight”. The personality that I have been hating and struggling with (and everybody around me) since I could remember. To make the long story short, as my life went on I started noticing that I had very hard time gaining and maintaining relationships with other people. I was always Mrs Right. My parents criticized this aspect of my personality all the time but I refused to listen because that is all what they had been doing – just criticizing me and telling me how bad person I was. How could I have listen? They had never said sorry to me or had never had any respect for my feelings and decisions.
When I met my husband I realized he was the kind of person that was liked by everyone and getting along with everybody, which meant, he was the total opposite of me. Also, I could not believe how much respect his parents had for his feelings even though he complained about it once in a while. I was very excited to see how I would get along with him and, of course, I failed again. Last week he told me many things about my personality that were not very pleasant to hear but to be honest, I was basically aware of most of them just did not know how to change them. (And, of course, I would never admit it out loud.) Your manual not only helped me to understand what I was doing wrong but also thought me how to fix it. I used to defend myself ALL THE TIME not ever being able to admit that I could ever be wrong or I could make a mistake. Actually, many times I new I was wrong but I just could not say it out loud.