You’re Not The Boss Of Me
I Do What I Want!
Defying rules and restrictions placed upon us by others is in our DNA. One problem with having a reflex to avoid or defy rules is that we begin to have trouble following through with the rules that WE SET FOR OURSELVES!
If I cannot surrender my will to others, especially my partner or family, then I cannot surrender my will and do difficult tasks that I tell myself that I want to do!
Common Ways We ‘Should’ On Ourselves
I should be more considerate
I need to lose weight
I need to stop arguing and defending
I just have to stop being so critical
I shouldn’t show my thoughts and feelings
None of these behaviors is likely to change when it feels like I am following orders, norms, or the rules of my partner or society. Until there is a conversion of these ideals of behavior away from taking orders from others into a desire to do, or not do, disturbing behaviors; they are not likely to change. How do you get